The Reset Method
The RESET Experience

For the parent who's done snapping, shutting down and running on empty.

Three hours. No excuses. A full-on reset. See where your reactions really come from, and put down what you've been carrying for years.

This isn't something you watch. It's something you go through.

What you getInstant access to a recording of a live RESET Experience. The real session, captured, so you can do it at home in your own time.
WhatA 3-hour guided experience with Fab. Map your triggers with the Neuro Pattern Map, trace where they really started, then let it go in a powerful guided breathwork session.
WhenWhenever suits you. Start any evening once the kids are down. It's on demand, and you keep lifetime access to come back to it.
WhereYour own home, in private. No group, no sharing.
Investment$197AUD one-off. 28-day money-back guarantee.
I'M READY — $197AUDInstant access · 400+ people have been through RESET · 28-day money-back guarantee
Is it for you?

Nobody prepared you for what being a parent would bring up in you.

The short fuse. The going quiet. The guilt. The stuff from your own childhood that shows up when you least expect it.

RESET is for you if…

  • You snap, yell or lose it more than you'd like, then lie in bed replaying it.
  • You go quiet. Buried in work, always busy, providing but not really there.
  • You've given so much to everyone else, you barely recognise yourself.
  • You hear your mum or dad coming out of your mouth.
  • Your kids are little, teenagers or grown, and you still carry guilt about how you raised them.
  • You've been reflecting on your own childhood, you're still carrying it, and you're ready to let it go.
  • There's more tension with your partner lately, and they seem to set you off more than anyone. (This isn't couples therapy. You do it on your own.)

A real RESET participant. Everyone's experience is different.

Filmed at a live RESET Experience. What you get is the recording, so you can do it at home.

Or maybe you're thinking, "That's not really me."

The one who's "pretty good, most of the time"You stay calm. You keep it together. You can explain away the odd bad day. But keeping it together isn't the same as being okay. But what isn't felt doesn't disappear. The body holds on to it, and it leaks out sideways: in your sleep, your gut, your skin, or the way you pull away.Calm on the outside isn't always calm on the inside.
The one who's sure it's themIf your partner just stopped doing that, or the kids just listened, things would be fine. Maybe. But blame is a coping strategy too. It keeps the focus out there so we don't have to look at what's going on in here.You can't change what you can't see.

Most of the time, it's not really about the kids.

RESET is not for you if…

  • You want someone to hand you a parenting script or tell you how to raise your kids.
  • You're looking for a quick fix without being willing to feel anything uncomfortable.
  • You're waiting for your partner or kids to change first, and aren't open to looking at yourself.
  • You want to sit back and watch. RESET only works if you actually take part.
  • You're in crisis right now, or a condition on the safety list applies to you. Please speak with your GP or a mental health professional first.
Not a parent?

If you've found this page through my content and you've got your own demons you're wrestling with, this is absolutely for you too. RESET isn't just for parents. It's for anyone who's done carrying it.

A real RESET participant. Everyone's experience is different.

Is it worth it?

I can't tell you what you'll get out of it. But it'll blow your mind.

What I can tell you is what I see every time I run it.

  • People cry. People feel anger or grief they didn't see coming.
  • People say it's like putting down a backpack full of rocks they'd carried for years.
  • I've had people tell me it was more intense than anything they've ever taken. No substances. Just your breath.
400+people have been through RESET

A real RESET participant. Everyone's experience is different.

“That was the most profound experience I've ever had… And I worked out how much pain I've been carrying for a long time.”

— Emma, live RESET session

“I actually came back to my kids… The only way he could actually settle down was to actually be on my chest and breathe with my breath. And I remember that. And then that's the first time I lost it. And I actually broke down.”

— Michael, live RESET session

Some names have been changed to protect privacy.

How it works

One evening. Four parts. Just you.

Pre-recorded, about three hours, guided by me. Best done after the kids are in bed.

PART 1Neuro Starting PointAn honest, no-judgement look at where you're actually at right now.
PART 2Neuro Pattern MapMap what sets you off, what you do and how you feel after. Most people see their pattern clearly for the first time.
PART 3Neuro Connection JourneyA guided look at where those reactions might have been learnt. Nothing's forced.
PART 4Neuro Alignment BreathGuided breathwork. The part people can't explain until they've done it. You're in control the whole time.

How to set yourself up

After the kids are asleepA quiet evening, phone on do not disturb, lying down somewhere private.
Nothing on afterwardsThere's an integration period, and most people feel like they're floating. Let it land.
One sitting if you canIt's far more profound in one go. If you must split it, do Part 1 first, then the rest together.

A real RESET participant. Everyone's experience is different.

Behind closed doors

You'd be surprised what parents are carrying.

I've worked with hundreds of CEOs, business owners, professionals, mums and dads. Beautiful homes. Successful businesses. Kids with every opportunity. And chaos behind closed doors.

See if any of these sound familiar.

Little ones, short fuseThe meltdowns, the bedtime battles, the 8am rush. You're snapping at a three-year-old and hating yourself for it ten minutes later.
Teenagers who've shut you outSlammed doors, one-word answers. You wonder where your kid went, and whether you pushed them there.
Grown kids, old regretsThey've left home, but you still replay the years when they were little and wish you'd done some of it differently.
Barely hanging onYou and your partner hardly talk unless it's about the kids, the bills or who's doing what. One feels like they carry everything. The other feels like nothing's ever enough.
Two homesSeparated, co-parenting through resentment, loneliness and new routines, and trying to hold it together for the kids.
Doing it soloBeing everything to everyone, with no one to tap you out when you've got nothing left.
Extra needs, extra loadRaising kids with ADHD, autism or additional needs. You adore them, but you're exhausted. Another meltdown, another call from school, then hours beating yourself up.
Giving them everythingThe holidays, the opportunities, the life you never had. And they still complain."You've got no idea how lucky you are." Then you hear your own parents' words coming out.
Distance between youA son or daughter you barely speak to. A gap you don't know how to close, and a hope that it's not too late.
Always the strong oneGrief you've never had time to process. Anxiety you've lived with for as long as you can remember. So used to holding it together, you've forgotten how to ask for help.
Successful, but not okayYou've built the business, the career, the house. On paper it's all working. Inside, you're running on fumes and nobody would ever guess.
Still carrying your childhoodYou promised your kids would get something different. But you've never really dealt with what happened to you.

You love your kids. But sometimes you just want everyone to leave you the fuck alone. Then you feel terrible for thinking it.

Whatever stage you're at, the pattern started before them.

A real RESET participant. Everyone's experience is different.

“I'd spent so much of the last 12 months… stuck in the past and couldn't really see a future… the thoughts coming through the breath was excitement for what's ahead.”

— Daniel, live RESET session

Some names have been changed to protect privacy.

Why trying harder doesn't work

Willpower isn't the problem. Capacity is.

You can read every book and promise you'll be more patient tomorrow. But if you don't understand where your reactions really come from, you can have all the fucking willpower you want. You'll break.

The fruit

The yelling. The shutting down. The guilt. The same fight on repeat.

The root

Patterns you learnt growing up, and a nervous system already at capacity.

Your body is already telling you.

What you don't deal with doesn't just go away. The body holds on to it, and it leaks out sideways. Often it shows up as:

Poor sleepGut and digestive issuesSkin flare-upsHair thinning or falling outConstant tensionTired but wiredA shorter and shorter fuse

Most people put it down to stress, work, the cost of living, or everything going on in the world right now. But if it's been going on for a while, it's often a sign your system has been running at capacity for a long time.

RESET isn't medical treatment. If you have ongoing symptoms, please see your GP as well.

“I've just got a sense of peace where you're starting to feel stuff. Whereas I think I spent most of my life not feeling stuff at all.”

— Sarah, live RESET session

Some names have been changed to protect privacy.

Change the fruit? Look at the root.

RESET isn't another thing to try harder at. Most parents are doing their best, and if you're reading this, you want to change something. It's not too late.

Fabien Pataud
Why I created RESET

I'm Fab. I've had my own shit to work through.

I grew up around a fair bit of chaos. There were things happening in my family that, as a kid, I didn't know how to make sense of. So I did what a lot of kids do. I found ways to cope. Some helpful. Some not so helpful.

As I got older I became incredibly driven. I built a career, led teams and pushed through everything. But underneath it all, I was carrying plenty. In 2019 it came crashing down, and I had a major breakdown.

I knew how to succeed in life. I didn't know how to feel okay in it.

Breathwork, somatic work and understanding my nervous system changed everything for me. Then I became a dad to three boys, and I started noticing something everywhere I looked.

So many parents are still carrying pain from their own childhood, and they just don't know how to let it go. Not because they're bad parents. Most of us were raised by people doing their best with what they had. This isn't about blaming anyone, or saying your home is broken. It's just that nobody ever showed us how to put it down.

Our kids inherit more than just our DNA.

They pick up our patience and our short fuse. The way we handle stress. The way we say sorry, or don't. What we don't work through, we tend to pass down.

That's become my mission: fewer kids growing up carrying what I carried. And that starts with the parents. With you giving yourself the chance to let go of what was never yours to carry in the first place.

I'm not some perfectly calm dad who's got it all figured out. I still get frustrated. I'm still doing the work. But I have a very different relationship with myself, my emotions and my boys than I once did. That's what I want for you, and for your kids.

— Fab

“That was a massive relief. Like I physically feel lighter… a burden's been lifted from me… I can't explain how much better I feel already.”

— Joel, live RESET session

Some names have been changed to protect privacy.

THE RESET EXPERIENCE

$197AUD

One-time payment. Lifetime access. 28-day money-back guarantee.

You get the full recording of a live RESET Experience, straight away. No dates, no venue. Just press play when you're ready.

  • All four Neuro parts, about three hours
  • At home, on demand, in private
  • Preparation, safety and integration resources
YES, I'M DOING THIS — $197AUD

28-day money-back guarantee. Do RESET, and if you genuinely feel it gave you nothing, get in touch within 28 days of purchase for a full refund.

Lifetime access

It's different every time.

Every time you do the RESET, it's usually a different experience. That's why it's called the Reset Experience.

The first time, go in with no expectations. Just an open mind. Surrender to whatever comes up and say, "I'm just gonna do this."

The second and third time are often really different, because each time it tends to shed another layer. Many people find the more they come back to it, the better they feel and the more things start to shift in their life.

You've got lifetime access. Come back to it whenever you need to.

Quick answers

Is this a live event?

No. It's a recording of a live RESET Experience, so you get the real thing, start to finish. You get instant access the moment you buy, it's yours for life, and you can do it at home whenever suits you.

I had a pretty good childhood. Is it still for me?

Yes. Plenty of people who do RESET would say the same. It doesn't assume anything bad happened to you. It looks at how you show up now and what's driving it, whether that's stress, exhaustion, old habits or something older you've never really looked at. Even good childhoods leave patterns. Most of us just never stop long enough to notice them.

How should I set up for it?

Treat it like an appointment with yourself. Pick an evening once the kids are asleep, or a time when the house is quiet and you won't be interrupted. Phone on do not disturb. Lie down somewhere comfortable and private, with a blanket, water and headphones.

Make sure you've got nothing major on afterwards. There's an integration period after RESET, and most people feel like they're floating for a while. Go to bed, rest, let it land. Never do it while driving, or in or near water.

Do I have to do it all in one sitting?

Ideally, yes. Done in one go, it's a far more profound experience. If you really need to split it, do Part 1 on its own first, then do the remaining parts together in one sitting, because they build on each other.

I can barely get three minutes to myself. How will I find three hours?

That's exactly why you need it. You give everyone else your time. This is one evening that's just for you. Put the kids to bed, put the phone away and press play. It's on demand, so you choose the night, and you've got lifetime access, so there's no rush to get it done this week.

What if something big comes up?

You don't need to dig up a memory, cry or have a breakthrough. Everyone's experience is different, and there's no right way to feel. You're in control the whole time. You can slow your breathing, pause, stop or choose a gentler option whenever you need to. You get preparation guidance before you start and integration resources afterwards, so you're not left on your own with it.

I have a serious health or mental health condition. Should I do it?

Please read the safety information below before you buy. RESET includes intense breathwork, and if any of the listed conditions apply to you (such as a heart condition, epilepsy, pregnancy, psychosis, bipolar disorder, or being in crisis), it's best you don't do it, or at least not without your doctor's or treating professional's OK. I'd rather you skip it than put yourself at risk. Your safety comes first.

I've already done therapy or courses. Will this be different?

Most likely. Therapy, books and courses mostly work through talking and understanding, and they can be really valuable. But you can understand your patterns perfectly and still react the same way when you're tired and stretched. RESET works on what you feel, through your body and your breath, not just what you know. It's not a replacement for therapy, and many people find it complements it.

I'm sceptical. Is this some woo-woo thing?

Fair question, and you're not the first to ask it. I've worked with everyone from CEOs and business owners who'd never set foot in a wellness retreat, to people who've tried every healing modality going and are tired of things that don't land. There are no crystals, no chanting and nothing you have to believe in. It's guided reflection, a practical pattern-mapping exercise and breathwork, which has a real physical effect on your nervous system. Come sceptical. You don't have to believe in anything, just give it a real go.

Do I need my partner to do it with me?

No. It's not couples therapy. You do it on your own, in private, with no group and no sharing. You don't need your partner on board, and you don't need to fix the relationship first. If your partner wants to do it too, give each other separate evenings so you both get your own space, then compare notes after.

I'm not a parent. Can I still do it?

Yes. Parents are who I talk to most, but RESET works on your patterns, whoever you are. If you've found me through my content and you've got your own stuff you're wrestling with, it's for you.

My kids are older. Is it too late?

No. Plenty of parents carry guilt about the early years long after the kids have grown up. Some have kids they're not close to right now. RESET doesn't change the past, but it can change what you keep carrying, and how you show up from here.

What if it doesn't work for me?

You're covered by a 28-day money-back guarantee. Do RESET, and if you genuinely feel it gave you nothing, get in touch within 28 days of purchase for a full refund. I'm not here to rip anyone off.

Safety (please read before you sign up)

RESET includes conscious connected breathwork, which can bring up strong physical and emotional responses. You're always in control and can stop at any time. Don't do the active breathing if you're pregnant or recently postpartum; have epilepsy, seizures or unexplained fainting; a heart condition or high blood pressure; have had a stroke or aneurysm, or have glaucoma or a detached retina; have recent surgery or an unhealed injury; live with psychosis, bipolar disorder or PTSD without your treating professional's OK; are in crisis or at risk of harming yourself; or are under the influence or under 18.

Check with your GP if you have asthma, diabetes, take medication or are unsure. Lie down somewhere safe; never while driving or near water. Stop and call 000 for chest pain, severe breathlessness, confusion or fainting. Not a replacement for professional mental health treatment.

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What will you pass down?

As a parent, you have the chance to change what else gets passed down to your kids.

Not a perfect parent. Just one who's willing to keep growing.

Need support now? If you're struggling or in crisis, please reach out.
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The RESET Experience is a coaching and educational wellbeing experience offered by The Trustee for PC Trust trading as Purposefully Aligned (ABN 64 548 215 467). It isn't therapy, counselling or medical treatment. If you're struggling, please speak with your GP or a qualified mental health professional. In an emergency, call 000.

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